Men Suspect Women Don’t Understand These 30 Things About Them

In 2024, the age of smartphones, social media, and dating apps, men are struggling to form meaningful relationships—so much so that it’s been labeled the “male loneliness epidemic.”

The numbers tell a clear story. Research from 2021 revealed that 15% of men say they have no close friends—a significant jump from just 3% in 1990. Another study by Equimundo in 2023 showed that a majority of men, from older millennials to Gen Z, agreed with the statement, “No one really knows me well.” Among all the groups, Gen Z expressed this sentiment the most.

In terms of romance, men appear to be trailing behind women. According to a 2022 Pew Research Center survey, 6 in 10 men under 30 are single—nearly double the rate of women in the same age group. The Equimundo study also found that about 1 in 5 men are either not seeking a relationship or are unable to find sexual partners.

Feeling abandoned by society, it’s not much of a surprise that many men feel bitter. Unfortunately, some have directed their anger outward, blaming women for their loneliness.

However, Kevin Pasco, relationship coach for men, believes this approach is misguided.

“So many men are frustrated with women (and vice versa) because we’re being taught all the wrong ways to have a relationship,” Pasco told Bored Panda. “Men aren’t being taught how to be solid leaders, how to communicate, how to connect with their feelings, and most importantly, how beautiful it is to have a deep relationship with a woman.”

“It’s become more common for men to be involved in hook-up culture, avoid being vulnerable, and only focus on what they can get instead of what they can give,” he added.

“One of the biggest things stopping men from having better relationships with women is that most men aren’t in their masculine energy,” Pasco explained. “And I don’t mean being jacked, having a beard, and drinking whiskey—what society thinks being masculine is.”

In Pasco’s view, true masculinity means having a clear goal or vision in life and actively pursuing it, being clear about what you want, and offering safe, protective energy in a relationship. “When you have those things down as a man, you’ll naturally attract a feminine partner who complements your masculine energy,” he said.

Pasco advises men looking to improve their relationships with women to take responsibility for the challenges they face. “Many men aren’t taught how to communicate or express themselves, and that isn’t their fault—but it is their responsibility to do something about it,” he said.

To make that happen, men should also have a strong idea of what they want. “You need to be clear with your intentions so you can step into your masculine energy and start attracting the kind of woman you want to be with,” he noted.

Finally, Pasco encourages men to learn how to connect with women and open up emotionally. “Men say they want a meaningful relationship but then get scared when it’s time to be vulnerable enough to create that depth,” he shared. “It’s far better to take the risk of being vulnerable than to stay scared and never experience true intimacy.”