People have their reasons to give their kids up for adoption, whether it’s out of necessity or otherwise. And while they are the biological parents, they do not hold the right to barge into their children’s lives, especially after being away for the entire time.
This was a concept a woman seemed unable to grasp as she tried to reconnect with her daughter. To make matters worse, she returned in poor health and asked for a massive favor.
The daughter understandably refused, which led to a chaotic situation that may have traumatized her further.
Some people feel entitled to suddenly barge into their biological children’s lives after being absent for so long
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A young girl experienced this when her birth mother suddenly wanted to reconnect with her
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As it turns out, the mom, who was in poor health, wanted her daughter to donate some of her organs
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The girl refused, leading to a heated and chaotic situation
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Children with absentee parents may endure severe well-being issues that they may carry through adulthood
Based on her account, the daughter appears to be carrying a heavy emotional burden as a teenager. Her pain was exacerbated by her mother’s sudden return and toxic sense of entitlement.
According to child and adolescent psychologist Iosune Mendia, that gap left by an absentee parent can leave traces of affective deficiency.
“It translates into feelings of discomfort, loneliness, and emptiness, all of which stem from that unmet need for love, as well as a constant search for approval to fill that void,” Mendia told Madrid-based newspaper El País.
Mendia noted that other manifestations may include low self-esteem, depression, poor academic performance, and lack of motivation.
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However, a worse outcome is that the child may carry the burden into adulthood and even pass it on to their own children.
“They will be afraid of abandonment, so they will tend to seek emotionally dependent relationships based on hostility and mistrust,” Mendia noted, adding that children who grew up with absentee parents will likely establish toxic relationships, even with those whom they will latch onto for affection.
It’s bad enough that the daughter may already be carrying deep wounds brought on by the trauma left by her biological mom. She was well within her rights to refuse her mother’s request, someone who was technically a stranger to her at that point.
Most commenters sided with the daughter
