39 Men Online Tell About The Most Romantic Memories Of Small, Beautiful Things Their S.O. Did

World culture, movies and books have created a cliché that love is necessarily beautiful words that we will always be there, protect our beloved from literally all everyday adversities and get them any star from the sky. No, beautiful words are also great in their own way, but love in a relationship is not so much a roaring, scorching fire as an evenly burning hearth that spreads warmth; when your hand is in the hand of another person, and this other gives you unshakable confidence that you have someone to rely on.

“Human memory works in an interesting way - we often remember various touching little things that are seemingly completely insignificant,” says Irina Matveeva, a psychologist and certified NLP specialist, whom Bored Panda asked for a comment here. “In fact, our whole life consists of such little things, and they often emphasize the warmth in a relationship much more than beautiful and spectacular actions.”

“Our memory is in fact very selective, and it’s precisely thanks to those warm feelings that we experienced when our loved ones did something small, but incredibly pleasant for us - it is precisely thanks to them that we remember these events. And then, many, many years later, these memories remain as the most precious thing we had,” Irina ponders.

It’s interesting that my wife and I have been together for over eleven years, but I still remember the taste of the little cupcakes she baked for me on our first Valentine’s Day. And the little plaster figurine of a Teddy bear holding a big red heart, which I gifted her the day after our twin daughters were born, still stands in our home.

Over the past decade or so, we both have given each other many much more expensive and spectacular gifts, but it was this Teddy bear, which fell on the floor more than once or twice, glued and painted, that still makes our voices warm every time we look at it, and our hearts beat in unison. Because it's the little things that really make up happiness.

Damn it, I got really emotional while writing these words. So let me go wash my face in the meantime to wipe away a completely inopportune tear from the corner of my eye, and in the meantime, please scroll this selection to the very last story. And maybe add your own examples of the smallest yet warmest memories about your significant others, in the comments below. After all, “love is always so beautiful that it needs to be talked about!” (This is no longer Robert Heinlein, this is me, but the phrase ain’t any less true for it!)