Parents put so much care and effort into looking after their children that they also need a break once in a while. Spending time apart from their kids might be tough because they probably always worry about the little ones, but these short times on their own are essential for rest and relaxation.
One couple decided to finally take a much-needed vacation without their kids, but they were shocked when their friend invited herself along and then decided to bring her children too. When they put their foot down, she got very mad.
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Sometimes parents need to take a guilt-free break from their little ones so that they can come back feeling refreshed
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The poster and her husband had decided to take an adults-only trip for the first time, and her friend invited herself and her boyfriend along
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The friend then decided to bring her 1-year-old and teen on the trip as she couldn’t find a babysitter, but the poster said that wouldn’t be happening
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In an update post, the woman mentioned that her entitled friend has often taken advantage of her by expecting free or last-minute babysitting
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Apart from disrupting her plans constantly for babysitting, the friend also owed the poster money for her time and effort
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The woman was glad that she put her foot down and didn’t let her friend bring her kids along on the trip, as she wanted a child-free vacation
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The poster was only worried she had been a jerk to stop her friend from bringing her kids, as the other lady got extremely offended
Right from the start, the poster and her husband were clear that they didn’t want to bring their four children along on their trip because they had never vacationed anywhere just together. Parents also deserve to take solo trips so that they can rest and relax without having to worry about anyone else’s well-being.
To gain insight into this situation, Bored Panda contacted Debbie Fettback. She is a family and couples budget travel expert who helps parents explore the world more affordably, without sacrificing fun, adventure, or the occasional bougie splurge. She said that “it took a while after having kids to let go of the guilt that came with taking a break, but eventually I realized it’s not selfish, it’s healthy.”
“We’re lucky to have family nearby who’s willing and able to step in, giving our kids quality time with loved ones and giving us space to recharge. Those moments away make us better parents when we come back, ready to be fully present for the chaos, the cuddles, and everything in between.”
“It is also important to note: A getaway without the kids doesn’t have to mean a first-class ticket to somewhere far away; even a simple overnight or weekend close to home can do wonders for your sanity and spark. We have had both ‘far away’ and ‘close to home’ breaks and they are equally as refreshing,” she added.
That’s why the OP didn’t like it when her friend decided to bring two of her kids along because she couldn’t find anyone to babysit. Since the other lady had decided to join the trip at the last minute, she couldn’t plan for appropriate childcare, and she felt that it would be alright to bring little ones along. She didn’t respect the fact that the poster and her husband wanted some adults-only time.
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After the woman shared her concerns online, netizens speculated that her friend had been taking advantage of her. The OP revealed that her friend kept asking her to babysit or expected her to cancel plans at the last minute in order to provide childcare. She also didn’t pay her very often for the help and, in fact, owed her money.
When it comes to bad friends like this, most people don’t even seem to realize that their friendship is toxic. They initially might fall for guilt trips or manipulation, but over time, this can become extremely tiresome and demanding. The only way to get out of a situation like this is to set good boundaries.
Debbie also mentioned that the “perks of a kid-free getaway are to recharge your batteries and return refreshed. Reconnect with your partner (or yourself). Enjoy activities, restaurants, or adventures that aren’t accessible with kids along, and go at your own pace,” she added.
Every couple should decide for themselves how they want to spend their vacations. It can become difficult when other people are involved, because of their plans and expectations. Just like the OP, people are allowed to put their foot down if they want to enjoy time with their partner or are okay to bring kids along on vacations.
Fortunately, once the other woman puts her ego aside, the solution becomes simple: to take a trip with her boyfriend and kids, and let the poster and her husband go on their own vacation. Do you think there’s anything else that could be done in a situation like this? We’d love to know your thoughts in the comments.
People sided with the poster and felt that her friend was rude to just presume she could bring her kids along
