Sometimes, the person you trust and plan to spend the rest of your life with decides to go the other route. For example, a few hours before you have to get married, they get cold feet. And what are you supposed to do in such a situation? Well, for instance, today's post's protagonist decided to... sleep with their frenemy. And they asked Reddit whether it was the right or wrong decision after they got shamed for it by some people in their life.
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Sometimes, the best way to get over being left at the altar is to recklessly sleep with a person you kinda hate
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The author's ex-fiancé left them a few hours before the wedding ceremony because he got cold feet and didn't want to be "tied down"
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The author was shaken to their core, and as a result, they decided to sleep with their frenemy from way back
Around 5 years ago, today's OP was left at the altar after planning a beautiful and intimate wedding with a person they never saw any red flags in. So, it was quite shocking when he left because he got “cold feet” and changed his mind about wanting to be “tied down.”
So, the post’s author stormed out of the place where the wedding was supposed to take place, but not before tearing the wedding dress apart.
But the story doesn’t end there. Later that day, the OP’s frenemy, who she had known since middle school when he used to jokingly flirt with the author, called to either rub in the situation or simply check in. In the same call, he asked whether the person would like to sleep with him, and the OP said yes because their life “seemed ruined anyway.”
More recently, the ex-fiancé contacted the post’s author, as he wanted to get closure on their situation. He apologized for getting cold feet but shamed the OP for sleeping with someone else on the same night. The author didn't understand why it was so wrong, as she wasn’t the one who ended the relationship. So, they turned to Reddit for help answering this question.
The people online were unitedly astonished by the OP’s ex-fiancé's entitlement. Not only did he wish for closure he didn’t deserve in the netizens’ eyes, but he also shamed the author for sleeping with someone after he was the one who got cold feet a few hours before the wedding.
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Speaking of getting cold feet, do you know what the difference is between cold feet and pre-wedding jitters? According to The Knot, pre-wedding jitters may be anxiety about the major change in life that’s about to happen. But this anxiety isn’t paralyzing. In fact, it’s usually something that happens near any kind of big life change. Some others add that pre-wedding jitters are more focused on the wedding itself rather than the relationship.
Having cold feet is a more paralyzing type of anxiety. It frequently involves a process of looking for the red flags, even if there aren’t really any, as an escape from a big change.
It’s quite normal to get cold feet right before the wedding, and it’s important how a person deals with it. They should strive to remember why they decided to marry this person in the first place, communicate their fears with another trusted person or even the one they’re about to marry, or simply try to relax and forget about the pressure of the ceremony.
Leaving someone at the altar or a few hours before the ceremony is probably one of the worst things a person can do in such a situation. Especially when they say things like they're not ready to be “tied down” and, years later, shame their ex-partner for the ways they dealt with it, even if their coping mechanism was sleeping with their frenemy.
Years later, the ex-fiancé decided to shame the author for this action, but after they asked Reddit's opinion, it was decided that the actual jerk was the ex-fiancé
