71 Wedding Moments That Made Guests Think, “This Marriage Is Going To Be A Problem”

I'm the keyboard player for a wedding band so I've seen all sorts of ridiculous s**t at weddings that would qualify as a red flag. That said, one stands above the rest: the groom aggressively grinding on 2 of the bridesmaids (simultaneously); one of which was the bride's sister.

The father of the bride made a speech about how he saw his daughter ‘organising’ the groom over time. Basically, instead of telling a story of their burgeoning love, it was a tale of how she began to control him over time. Was cringey. Lasted 3 years.

Bride and groom secretly marry, tell NO ONE because their relationship would cost him his job. They have a wedding 1 year later, about a month after she graduated (College, not high school). While at the reception we were playing a “counting game” which consisted of “How many groomsmen has the bride slept with?” Which was all 8 of them. The groom had slept with 3 of the bridesmaids so there was that too. Then we started the betting pool at the reception (which only played country music and served grits 3 ways with beer). I won the bet though, lasted 6 months after the ceremony. Which isn’t too surprising when the bride went home with the guitarist from the band playing at the reception instead of with the groom.

Probably get buried, but the biggest red flag at my own wedding was a guy my wife insisted had to be there. I knew him a little bit but she was adamant about him being there. Turns out she was sleeping with him. Probably 2 days before the wedding, and almost immediately afterwards while I was working to make a few extra dollars for the HM.

My father pointed it out to me but groom kept talking about his plans, his career, his life. never once mentioned the bride. She seemed to be waiting patiently to have her existence acknowledged. But the moment never came.

Groom was sending texts to a very uninterested bridesmaid all night. Groom was also more interested in getting wasted with his buddies than being with the bride. There were also red flags BEFORE the wedding. No surprise they were divorced in less than a year.

After the ceremony, the bride (who had epilepsy) had a seizure and her family took her into a side room away from all the guests to look after her until she’d recovered. The groom didn’t bother to go and help look after his wife, he was too busy getting drunk and partying with all his mates. Even after the bride recovered enough to return to the celebrations he didn’t stay with her or comfort her and she sat there in tears for half the night.

It lasted a couple of years before they divorced due to his selfishness and alcohol problem.

The bride was 32-48 years old. She was a compulsive liar. Said she had 2-4 kids but that her ex took their lives them and got away with it. Married the groom within 3 months of meeting. He was 21 and a virgin.

She drove a wedge between him and his extremely close family. She made him quit his waiter job because he wasn’t “allowed” to talk to women. They got married in a Waffle House parking lot.

Last I heard they were still together. He can no longer have friends so I can’t talk to him. I’m a woman so he’s double banned.

Bride told me and my partner a few weeks earlier that she didnt want to go through with it. She had generic vows, husbands were beautiful. She had a sour face the whole time, it was almost funny. It ended up turning out that she was shagging my partner the last year and she left her husband for him 4 months in. I dodged a bullet.

Went to a wedding for one of my older (male) cousins who has two sisters about my age. Apparently the bride talked to the oldest sister (whom the groom was very close to) and said something like "Just so you know, you're not the most important girl in his life anymore. I am."

Can't wait to see how this one plays out.

The bride and groom got in an argument post-reception and the bride ran away.

It was in a small town in the middle of nowhere but we ran around all night trying to find her. What an adventure.

Yes we found her after a couple hours. She was near the hotel just chilling outside acting like nothing happened.

The groom spent the almost the entire wedding glued to his (female) work colleague, to the point that the bride had to drag him away for their first dance. They also kept going off somewhere together (a friend tried to follow them outside but it was too dark to locate them). You could see the obvious hurt on the bride's face throughout the day.

Prior to the wedding he'd taken his colleague away abroad for his stag 'do (just the two of them, despite the bride's protests), and in his wedding speech he pointed his colleague out and told her that he'd had "the best time of his life" that weekend.

They're still together at the moment but I don't see it being the happy ending that the bride was so desperate for.

Bride going home with the best man. (Not kidding. Only 45 minutes into reception).

Processional music was "Options" by Pedro the Lion.

"I could never divorce you
Without a good reason.
And though I may never have to
It's good to have options.

But for now, I need you.
But for now, I want you.
But for now, I'll hold you".

That marriage lasted a year and a half.

The groom refused to get dressed & wore a black T-shirt & sneakers. The bride looked incredible in her gown & he looked like he was popping to the shops for a pack of ciggies.

Groom was clearly having a good time, bride was visibly uncomfortable. When it came time for vows the Groom had a long list and read it off nicely. The bride said something along the lines of "I'm just gonna wing it- basically you're my best friend" and trailed off soon after. Thank god for the open bar.

the groom said the wrong name during the vows.

At the reception there is a local tradition for the groomsmen to 'steal the bride', basically they do a quick barhop and come back to continue the reception. My husband was a groomsman, and as more than an hour passed, I finally called him. He said she was having a blast and wouldn't leave. The groom had arrived back after about 30 minutes, laughed it off at first, then relief when she finally blew back in totally smashed. They made it about 2 months after that.

There was a part of the ceremony where the bride and groom were kneeling at the altar. On the bottom of the groom’s shoes were two pieces of tape that read “HELP” and “ME” on them.

Never was clear whether he put them there or was pranked by his groomsmen, but it felt like an omen. They lasted less than a year.

I come from a very large Indian family, portions of which still strongly believe in "traditional marriage" (read: child brides, forced marriage, uncle/niece marriages).

There was one where the groom was clearly a horrible person but she was still forced to marry him. To no ones surprise the marriage ended in a horrible, long, drawn out divorce. Her parents still haven't forgiven her for divorcing him.

In another case, a woman in the family eventually found the guy of her dreams and wanted to marry him (love marriage - and he's a good guy). However, as her older brother was unmarried, she was not allowed to marry until he did first.

So their parents forced him to marry an emotionally manipulative girl, which he clearly understood she was prior to getting married. He went thru with it anyway on the pretext that he was ok "sacrificing" his life for the sake of his sister. Within 2 years they were divorced. He eventually married again, for love, but got divorced. He is now preparing to marry for the 3rd time, again at the behest of his family because "it's not ok" for the older brother to be single while the younger sister is married.