Some men can be so toxic to your health. They don't want to love you properly, but don't want to let go of you either. The more you give the less they appreciate, and the minute you've had enough and decide to walk away is when they are ready to love you and treat you right. So you give them a chance in hopes that they've changed only to realize it was all fake. You find the strength to walk away once more and here he comes proclaiming his love for you and you give in, AGAIN. The cycle repeats itself until you gather up enough strength to say enough is enough and really cut him out of your life.
You need a man who will commit to you and love you right at all times not only when you decide to walk away. He sabotages the relationship by being distant, unreliable, lying and or cheating because he is afraid commitment. Grown men don't play games, string you along or entertain any other women. You will know when you have found a real man and a true gentleman, because there will be no guessing, no anxiety, and no other competition. He will make sure that you are safe and loved. If the man you are with only wants to love you when he is threatened with your absence, he is not the man for you. A man will only do what you allow. Stop believing what he says and pay attention to what he does. If he really wanted you he would treat you like he doesn't want to lose you, not the opposite.
A man showing anger and persistence to get you back once you try to break it off isn’t proof of love; it’s a knee jerk reaction. A man kissing your ass and making flaccid attempts to be nicer for two weeks isn’t proof that he’s trying, it’s proof that he knows how to defuse you long enough to hook you once again. Take away a toy, a little boy cries. Take away a relationship of convenience, a big man child cries. Just because he cries doesn’t mean you give him what he wants. A lot of you women don’t know what it’s like to be loved by a real man. You know lust, you know joy, you know passion, and you know fear of abandonment. Stop chasing your idea of what love should be and recognize what love is. Love isn’t promising to act right after he fcks up; love is him acting right from the start so he won’t fck it up. Love isn’t telling a grown man he needs to change to keep you; love is a grown man changing on his own because he can’t imagine life without you.
