Woman Asks Husband To Cover All Of Her Financial Loss When Caring For Their Baby, He's Shocked And Lost

Expecting a baby is no easy task. There is a crazy amount of medical bills, changes to your body, as well as lifestyle and mental health. On top of that, caring for a whole new human being, however rewarding this experience may be for both parents, requires some sacrifices. And, of course, you want your partner to be there with you, taking on an equal share of the year-long burden.

When a possibly expecting woman decided to propose a fully-baked financial plan to her husband, getting down to the brass tacks of pregnancy costs, it naturally left him baffled. After all, celebrating this little miracle by negotiating finances isn't the most romantic way of doing things. However, considering how taxing this whole period can be for soon-to-be mothers, taking extra precautions shouldn't be all that surprising; on the contrary — it should be admired.

Not sure what should be an appropriate reaction to the wife's extra-detailed proposition, the husband turned to the internet to seek the perspective of others.

By now, it's no secret that the second richest nation in the world, America, has one of the worst maternity leave deals — four paid weeks, while 185 countries provide new mothers with 29 paid weeks on average. So, besides having to worry about the medical bills, spending a big chunk of your savings on baby clothing, cribs, nappies and whatnot — there's also the anxiety that comes with not knowing how to navigate the financial labyrinth that pregnancy presents.

This is the worry that more than 50% of soon-to-be mothers share. The worst part: financial anxiety can also cause indirect harm to the baby, as it increases the odds of bringing a child with a low birth-weight, which can cause some serious health issues in the long run.

To find out how parents can reduce financial anxiety before bringing their little bundle of joy into the world, Bored Panda has reached out to Dee Lee, the founder of Harvard Financial Educators. She says the most common mistake an expecting parent makes has an effect on their IRAs or 401k plans. "They stop saving for their retirement," Lee told us. Although the recently established SECURE Act allows parents in the US to withdraw up to $5,000 out of their retirement funds following the birth of a child without there being any financial penalty, Dee thinks there are better ways to prepare for parenthood without sacrificing the financial stability of your future-self.

Being a mother herself, Dee knows very well how financially challenging being a parent of a newborn is. According to her, in order to navigate this sleepless and expensive chapter of your life without breaking into million little pieces, it's important to change your spending habits. "Give up the [regular] stop to get coffee in the morning and take public transportation. Small things can make a difference," Lee suggested.

Among her many recommendations, Dee highlights the importance of having a support system that lies on the shoulders of your friends and family. She then gave a perfect example of what she means by that: "[Once] I traded babysitting with a friend — she worked days and I worked 3 to 11 at a hospital. Childcare solved!" As we argued in our post about babysitting, nowadays it's a very costly affair. Using your friend or a relative as a babysitter can save that extra money for your child's college funds. Plus, you'll know your little munchkin is in good hands.

Finally, there are the hand-me-downs. According to Dee, parents should start looking at second-hand shops and yard sales if they want to save some money. "Look for friends willing to give you their old stuff. A baby doesn't know if their clothes are from a thrift shop," she explained. After all, this is the way Dee helped her siblings when the time was right. "I had my children first, so the baby crib and [other] furniture I passed down to the families of my siblings."

So before you start losing your hair over finances or drain your retirement funds, look around you first — there'll be many sleep-deprived couples in the same situation. And if there's one thing we know about stressful situations — there isn't a better incentive to share and support one another.