Woman Ditches Her Family Vacation, They're Furious As They've Planned To Exploit Her

Going on vacation with your family can be heaven or hell, depending on a multitude of factors. Some folks are grouches, others are a heck of a lot of fun. But if you are unfortunate enough to be in the former category, you have perhaps fantasized about just leaving them at the airport.

A woman pulled a fast one on her entitled and annoying family, by leaving for a separate vacation with her husband and ditching them. The family, who had intended to mooch off of OP and her husband were dumbfounded, but readers absolutely loved the bait and switch she set up and executed.

As with so many things in life, the origin of the word vacation is a lot more dry and indirect than one might think. In Medieval England, following the conquest of the aptly named William the Conqueror, the law courts would go on summer break every year, ostensibly to facilitate the harvest. This would be referred to as a vacation, but given the lack of responsibilities, it would entail free time for those involved.

Fortunately, significantly more of us than just the members of the court can actually take some time off and travel these days. For most of us, our first vacation would have been a trip, either international or regional, with our family. After all, most children can’t exactly afford to travel and wouldn’t be able to in the first place.

This is also why family vacations end up feeling like a sort of tradition that then feels “set in stone.” Despite independence, people then feel obligated to spend this time with their family, because they “do it every year.” More manipulative parents begin to use this to practically finance their vacations, utilizing the pressure they can place on their kids. After all, who wants to break traditions?

The reality is that these vacations can be strained, as managing money questions with family is already a minefield. Parents themselves are not necessarily the most comfortable people to hang around particularly as they get older. Not to mention, the travel style, activities, times of the year, food choices and a massive abundance of other options can and will differ from family member to member, who are all now “stuck” in the same vacation.

This is perhaps why a lot of travel writing around family vacations actually focuses on how not to lose your mind. But at the end of the day, sometimes enough is enough, as OP’s story demonstrates. While it can be a bit sad to see someone else living out your dream, it’s also empowering to see someone actually pull a stunt like this off.

Given that OP was well aware of the issues, she employed a bit of malicious compliance by never explicitly telling her parents her plan. Her folks appeared to be operating under the classic entitled parents' delusion that people wordlessly agreed with them and never even thought to question their daughter about the specifics.

First and foremost, OP laid out all the reasons why she thought ditching her family was ultimately for the best. It’s also worth mentioning that family vacations do stop, say, a couple from having a more private vacation together. Research suggests that a one-on-one vacation with your partner has tangible benefits for a relationship, from communication to trust.

By having fewer opportunities for this sort of vacation, OP’s family was, in a sense, being more than financially selfish. Other research shows that these sorts of interactions and new experiences, removed from the everyday stress of work do help a couple after the vacation. And let's face it, a person with a job actually needs some time off that isn’t consumed by a parent or sibling who constantly wants something from them.