Boundary issues are often the cause of conflict among in-laws. One person oversteps, perhaps unknowingly, ultimately causing a rift that may tear the entire family apart.
This was the problem a woman faced when her in-laws barged into her home to stay with her for six weeks. Not only were the circumstances infeasible, but she was also forced to accept having her privacy intruded upon.
To add insult to injury, her husband was unsupportive throughout the entire drama. As the situation worsened, she was forced to contemplate leaving her own home to stay elsewhere.
Overstepping boundaries is a common cause of rifts among in-laws
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This was a problem a woman dealt with when her husband's family barged into her home to stay for six weeks
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Worse, her husband did not support her
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As she considered leaving her own home, the woman asked the internet for advice
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Boundary issues involving extended families may arise between married couples because of their conflicting definitions of “home”
The author mentioned the lifestyle differences between her and her in-laws that made her feel apprehensive about them staying for five to six weeks.
Such problems may be rooted in conflicting definitions of what “home” is.
Niloufar Esmaeilpour, a registered clinical counselor and founder of Lotus Therapy & Counselling Centre, tells Bored Panda that each person has preconceived notions shaped by how they were raised and what they consider “normal” or “respectful.”
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“The two individuals are not just merging their lives but also merging their ways of doing things and their definitions of the concept of ‘home,’” she explained.
To make matters worse, her husband decided that both of them would have his family stay over. He did this despite knowing that his wife wouldn’t be comfortable.
Esmaeilpour says such actions may significantly damage the relationship, “irrespective of the nature of the decision.”
At this point, it may help the author if her husband sides with her, at the very least to make the situation less awkward and difficult for her to deal with.
“The initial step is for the couple to openly discuss the situation and the way they felt about what occurred,” Esmaeilpour said. “It is also essential to establish agreements for the future, such as agreeing to discuss and make decisions together as a couple.”
The author provided more information about her story
Many readers sided with her
But there were those who called her out for being a jerk to herself
A few also faulted the woman for "running away and hiding"
