Holidays are all about enjoying them with your family, but these happy vibes can turn sour pretty quickly. That’s probably because we spend more time than usual with our relatives, so obviously, it can spark friction and sometimes even lead to unnecessary conflicts.
Just look at this family gathering during Thanksgiving, which instantly turned into a whole drama fest, all because of this woman’s brother-in-law. She finally put him in his place for constantly insulting her brother, but little did she know that it would reveal a darker secret. Scroll down to find out what really happened!
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Sometimes, the happy vibes during a holiday can instantly disappear because of bitter family drama
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The poster's 32-year-old brother-in-law always mocked her 22-year-old brother for having his life "sorted," and did it again during Thanksgiving dinner
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Everyone brushed it off as humor, but the frustrated poster finally had enough and called her brother-in-law a self-loathing jerk
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It instantly sparked tension at the dinner table as her sister accused her of being rude and even asked her to apologize to him
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Her brother thanked her, but the whole family said that she shouldn't have said it, and the surprised poster soon found out why
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Apparently, her brother-in-law had violent tendencies, and he had emotionally mistreated and controlled her sister in the past
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Due to her retort, he got so aggressive that he broke things, which scared her sister so much that she called up their parents to take her away
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However, much to the poster's sorrow, her sister felt that "things would go back to normal" if she just apologized to the toxic man
Today, we dive into quite a serious story as the original poster (OP) tells us how Thanksgiving got dramatic with her family. The thing is, her 32-year-old brother-in-law, who had started a business, always insulted her 22-year-old brother, who was finishing premed, for having his life “sorted.” However, everyone brushed it off as “humor” when he did it again during Thanksgiving dinner.
The poster was so annoyed that she finally called him out for “projecting his issues on her brother,” and boy, did it annoy him. Her sister immediately jumped in and accused her of being rude. Although her brother thanked her, he said that he was used to it, which hurt her more. That’s why when her family asked her to apologize to the man, OP just refused.
Little did she know that it would reveal something dark about the guy. Much to her horror, the poster found out that he had a history of violence. Apparently, he had been emotionally cruel and controlling towards her sister in the past. The reason everyone walked on eggshells around him was not for his sake, but to protect her sister from his "anger."
In fact, her retort sparked his fury, and he violently broke things to the point that it scared her sister. She called her parents and asked them to take her away, but when OP went to visit her, she was totally surprised. The poor woman truly believed that if the poster just apologized to her husband, things would go back to normal!
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Sadly, stats show that nearly half of all women (48.4%) in the US experience psychological aggression by an intimate partner in their lifetime. Moreover, it has also been found that sometimes, emotional mistreatment is a stronger predictor of PTSD in women than even physical violence. It states that 7 out of 10 women who have faced this cruelty will display PTSD symptoms.
Experts also warn that emotional cruelty is often used to erode a person’s self-esteem and self-worth. They further state that it can create psychological dependency on the toxic partner. That’s exactly what happened in this story. The woman was quite willing to go back to her cruel husband if her sister just apologized to him.
Research has also revealed that unaddressed effects of emotional violence can lead to mental health conditions over time. These may include social anxiety, depression, eating disorders, complex PTSD, or, sometimes, it may leave the victim feeling shameful. It’s so sad to think that a man’s actions can actually ruin his wife’s life even when she is not at fault.
Also, the way that he kept mocking OP’s younger brother just for having his life sorted, shows that he was simply jealous of the younger guy. Overall, I think I definitely agree with Redditors that the guy is a massive red flag, and his wife needs therapy to realize what a bad apple he is. What about you, though? Do you agree with their verdict? Let us know in the comments below!
Folks online didn't shy away from calling out the brother-in-law's behavior, and many claimed that he was a massive red flag
