Family fights can be many things, but one thing’s for sure—they’re rarely easy to deal with.
This Redditor appears to know that better than most. After finding out that her brother-in-law, who had been having an affair for years, wanted to return to his family, she sided with her sister-in-law and said he shouldn’t be welcomed back.
But what she didn’t expect was for her comment to upset her husband, and now she’s left wondering if she should have kept her thoughts to herself.
After finding out that her cheating brother-in-law wanted to return to his family, the woman said he shouldn’t be welcomed back
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But to her surprise, this response didn’t sit well with her husband
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About 4 in 10 marriages experience an affair
Cheating is one of the most devastating things that can happen in a marriage. But unfortunately, it's not that uncommon.
Psychiatrist Dr. Scott Haltzman, author of The Secrets of Surviving Infidelity, notes in his research that about 4 in 10 marriages will experience an affair. Despite this, more than half of these couples choose to stay together.
Continuing a relationship after infidelity isn’t always the healthiest or most reasonable option. In cases like the one described in the story, where the couple hasn’t lived together for six years, it raises the question of whether there’s any point in trying to work things out.
However, Rachael Pace at Marriage.com suggests that certain factors can help rebuild a relationship if both partners are committed. It starts with the desire to repair the marriage. “This means prioritizing your marriage, not just while things feel broken, but from this point on for the rest of your relationship,” Pace explains.
Another crucial step is to end the affair completely if it hasn’t already been addressed. “To have a successful marriage after infidelity, all third parties need to be removed from the relationship. This is the only way to restore trust,” Pace says.
Recovery after cheating depends heavily on effective communication, even when it feels painful. It’s important to talk, listen, and allow each other the space to process emotions. Seeking professional help, such as working with a couples counselor, can also provide valuable guidance and mediation throughout the process.
In the replies, the woman noted that she couldn’t understand why the couple was still married
Most readers agreed she was right to call out her brother-in-law
Some, however, felt it wasn’t her place to say anything
