Relationships come with obligations. Whether you need to comfort a friend during tough times, help an old neighbor carry their groceries up the stairs, or refrain from ramming the jerk who cut you off on the road, that's just the reality of living in a society.
However, Reddit user Choice_Cherry_9641 started feeling that her roommates were pushing the limits too far. Even though the woman had been contributing to managing the household more than they had, the couple began throwing hints that they also expected her to take care of their newborn whenever they needed.
She refused to do so, but the two took it personally.
Healthy relationships require boundaries
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But when this woman refused to babysit her roommates' child, they refused to reach an agreement
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It sounds like the woman had been putting up with quite a lot
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Roommates.com has conducted some research in the US into the biggest housemate red flags, and the couple from the post ticks off a lot of its boxes. The top pet peeves were:
- Leaving the bathroom messy;
- Leaving the kitchen messy;
- Leaving dirty laundry out;
- Someone who drinks all the time;
- Pets (Not taking responsibility for them, etc.);
- Playing loud music at night;
- Inviting friends over too often;
- Not paying shared bills.
So a lot of people probably wouldn't have put up with them as much as the Redditor did.
As her story went viral, the woman released an update on the situation
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And provided more information in the comments
If the couple, indeed, is struggling financially, they should be more thoughtful of childcare
Childcare has long been one of the largest expenses for families, so a couple who is already having money troubles should be very deliberate about it.
The U.S. Department of Health and Human Services (HHS) states that child care is considered affordable when it costs families no more than 7% of their household income, but according to the Care.com 2024 Cost of Care Report, parents are spending 24% of their household income on child care (vs. 27% in the prior year), with 60% spending 20% or more and (as compared to 67% last year) and 84% spending 10% or more (compared to 89% last year).
According to the report:
- the average weekly nanny cost is $766 (up 4% from $736 in 2022);
- the average weekly daycare cost is $321 (up 13% from $284 in 2022);
- the average weekly family care center cost is $230 (up 0.4% from $229 in 2022); and
- the average weekly babysitter costs $192 (up 7% from $179 in 2022).
Looking after a kid is a demanding job, and many people even pay their relatives if they are asking for substantial amounts of time. You cannot simply dump the burden on your roommate who has a life of their own whenever you want.
Most of the people said she was behaving completely normally
But some think she could've expressed herself more empathetically
