Relationships,FamilyMAR 26, 2024

Woman Offers To Host Cousin’s Wedding, Changes Her Mind After Bridezilla Shows Her True Colors

Mindaugas Balčiauskas and Justin Sandberg

Putting together a wedding is no mean feat. Beyond the obvious organizational questions, there are the costs, stress and general bombardment of things that need to be done. So some folks, perhaps mistakenly, believe that they can simply use their family when needed.

A woman considered receding her offer to allow her cousin to host a wedding on her land when she would not stick to any of the rules and guidelines that were given to her. Later, she shared some sizable updates about the fallout of the entire thing. We reached out to OP via Reddit and will update the story when she gets back to us. We also got in touch with wedding planner Lisa Pleasant to learn more.

Relying on family for a wedding can be a double edged sword

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One woman ended up disallowing her cousin from using her land when she ignored all the rules she was presented with

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We reached out to a wedding planner to hear if the stereotype of a “bridezilla” was common or not

Bored Panda got in touch with Lisa Pleasant, the owner of Lisa Pleasant Events, a wedding planning company, and she was kind enough to share some of her experiences and opinions on the infamous “bridezilla.” After all, the internet is littered with stories of brides-to-be acting downright horrible and delusional, so we wanted to hear just how common this was.

First and foremost, we wanted to hear how common it is for a bride to go a bit off the deep end when it comes to planning a wedding. “Actually, I'm going to go a bit sideways here. While Bridezillas seem to get all of the spotlight from "reality" TV shows, they are pretty few and far between in my experience. Keep in mind, the demographic of our couples are relatively established, more mature couples. That said, there are other people in the mix who are, believe it or not, neither Bridezillas nor Groomzillas. They are what we kindly refer to as "Momzillas."

“After a few years from starting my business, I decided to be light-hearted in my contract in order to break up the legal jargon of the multi-page (unfortunately necessary) sea of words that was essentially stressful and boring. I added a full page of clauses, each named after a former client who had unexpectedly warranted a ridiculous rule set aside just to apply to them,” she shared with Bored Panda.

“The majority? Momzillas. These ranged from bringing U-Hauls of items for us to set up, to disgracing their own daughters in public, to complaining to the photographer that their daughter had more photos in the end than they did when photos were given to the couple after the wedding.”

She shared some hilarious actual demands people had given for their weddings

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Lisa was also kind enough to share some real-life examples of people who were at least slightly delusional about the sort of wedding they wanted. “I'll leave you with an example of a few clauses written after a few involved family members who shall remain unnamed.”

“The (name) Clause: Planners are not surgeons, but will make a reasonable call on whether a guest with a wine glass stem stuck near his temple should go to the hospital, even if this delays scheduled guest transportation by a few minutes.”
The (name) Clause: Client will respect Planners. Knocking over piles of chairs and throwing them at Planner’s feet is not the best start to a weekend.”
“The (name) Clause: If Client, family members, or guests exhibit inappropriate behavior at an event, including cursing at, yelling at, or otherwise degrading your planner, you will have to make the choice of who stays. Planners are 100% dismissed if said person does not either correct her/his behavior or leave the event. Planner is also not a bathroom attendant, including being given a Swiffer to go over the floors on the hour, refreshing given potpourri, or changing all of the venue’s toilet paper with Charmin Ultra Soft.”

So if you are in the market for a wedding planner who has really dealt with and seen it all, you can find more of Lisa’s work on her website or Facebook. And if you want to keep exploring weddings that went off the deep end, check out our previous articles on Bachelorette parties that went sideways or our article detailing people’s experiences with disruptive guests.