Occasions,WeddingJUN 11, 2025

"I Was So Confused And Shocked": Woman Called Selfish By Bride Because She Lost Some Weight

Your body, your rules, right? Well, that is unless your engaged friend has gone off the rails and plans to control every aspect of her wedding, including how you look.

Reddit user Optimal-Weekend5065 dropped a few dress sizes in the lead-up to her bestie's big day. However, instead of praise and support, the bride met her with jealousy, harsh accusations, and a shocking ultimatum: either regain what you lost, or else!

Suddenly, the friendship that seemed rock solid started to crumble.

Getting into the shape you want isn't easy

Image credits: Michael Faix (not the actual photo)

So, when you do and your friend takes it as an insult—then what?

Image source: Optimal-Weekend5065

Image credits: THEFUNKSHIP (not the actual photo)

Joining the bridal party can bring a lot of pressure

A lot of the time, the pressure the wedding party feels is financial. A LendingTree survey found that 58% of bridesmaids and 61% of maids of honor felt pushed to spend money on bridal party-related expenses, and many agreed it strained their relationship with the bride (32% of bridesmaids and 42% of maids of honor said that was the case).

Additionally, the survey revealed the bride was usually the main source of these demands (48%), and not other members of the bridal party (32%).

(Interestingly, 37% of respondents also admitted they have declined a wedding invitation because of the cost.)

However, when Mamamia spoke to bridesmaids about the most ridiculous requests they have received, there were quite a few anecdotal examples of them being told how to look.

While a few were asked to cut or dye their hair, one said, "I was instructed to lose a few [pounds] so that I wouldn't 'stick out,'" and another added, "The bride kept insinuating some people in the bridal party should lose weight."

We get it— a lot of time and effort goes into planning a wedding. Couples even spend all of their savings to make their day an unforgettable event for everyone involved. But is it worth destroying your friendships?