38 Men From August Who Made Being Single Look Like A Pretty Great Option

I’m 19F, living in LA and going to community college. My boyfriend is 22M and we’ve been together for about a year.

His mom had surgery recently and he asked me if I could spend the entire weekend at their house to help take care of her while he worked.

I said I could come over Saturday afternoon and stay for a few hours, but I already had plans Sunday.

He got annoyed and said I should be there for his family because “that’s what serious girlfriends do.”

I reminded him that I’m not his mom’s caretaker, and that I was willing to help for a few hours but I wasn’t going to cancel my entire weekend.

His mom apparently overheard us arguing. Later that evening she texted me saying she was disappointed in me and that she thought I was “more family-oriented.”

I honestly didn’t know what to say to that. I told my boyfriend that I felt like everyone was expecting me to take responsibility for something that wasn’t actually my responsibility.

He said I was being selfish and that this was one of those moments where he needed to know whether he could actually depend on me.

Now I’m wondering if I handled this badly. I don’t think refusing to cancel my plans makes me a bad girlfriend, but maybe I should have been more willing to help given the circumstances.

I (25f) and my boyfriend (26m) have been fighting the past few days over him going to the dentist. My boyfriend told me when we first got together that he has only been to the dentist once in the past 7 years and vowed never to go back.

Additionally, he only brushes his teeth 85% of the time. My mom was a dental hygienist so I really value dental care. I have brought up going to the dentist since the beginning of our relationship and we made a deal that for my birthday he would finally go. However, he did not hold up his end of the bargain.

Recently his breath has been pretty stinky even right after brushing his teeth and I told him to either go to the dentist or we aren’t sharing a bed. He said his feelings are hurt and that his breath isn’t that bad, but I am genuinely just concerned about his health.

AITA for thinking my boyfriend should have talked to me before inviting overnight guests into our home, even though the plans don’t technically interfere with my schedule?

My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years and share a home. The house is legally his, but I pay rent, contribute to household expenses, clean, and help care for the home. He has 2 sons whom we have half the time.

I’ve met his parents 4 or 5 times. I really like them and look forward to getting to know them better, but I still don’t know them that well.

My boyfriend has a habit of making or changing plans and telling me afterward. We’ve talked about it many times. I think we should talk to each other while plans are being made if they involve the other person, our home, or our shared schedule. Not because I would say no or want to control him. I just think it’s respectful to run things by someone you share a home and life with.

He thinks plans happen in real time and that because he tells me afterward, I still know about them.

In early August, I was offered a dog sitting job for September. I told my boyfriend the dates that day. Dog sitting is normal for me, and if there had been a conflict, I could have turned down the job.

That weekend is supposed to be our weekend with the boys, but my boyfriend will be away sailing. I normally sail with him, but this time I’ll be dog sitting. Usually, if he is away, we switch weekends with the boys’ mom.

He then told me that in July he had invited his parents to stay with us for a week in September. They’ll be visiting and taking care of the boys while he’s sailing.

After I finish dog sitting, I would be home alone with his parents and the boys for most of Saturday and all day Sunday. I’m happy they’re visiting and glad they’ll spend time with their grandsons. I just don’t know them well enough to feel comfortable spending that much time alone with them while my boyfriend isn’t there.

I’m sure they wouldn’t expect me to entertain them and would let me do my own thing, but I would feel rude ignoring guests in my home and would feel obligated to act as a host. I’ve also never been alone with his parents and the boys before, and I don’t know them well enough to feel comfortable in that situation without my boyfriend there. I’m considering getting an Airbnb for those 2 days instead.

When I said I wished he had talked to me before confirming everything, he said I have 8 weeks of notice and the visit doesn’t interfere with my dog sitting plans. When he made the plans, he assumed I would be sailing with him. His position is that because I don’t have to change my plans, it shouldn’t matter that he didn’t ask me first.

I like his parents, want them to visit, and don’t want him to cancel. I just want us to talk to each other before inviting people to stay in our home. For me, this isn’t about whether their visit interferes with my plans. It’s about communication and having some say in what happens in the home we share.

I have my drivers license for 12 years now. No accident nothing. Im not speeding. Like really never speeding. Im not sticking to other cars bumpers. Im really no aggressive driver and i think i drive good. My boyfriend had a few accidents and lost his drivers license due to drinking. Since a year i'm driving him around. He was sometimes naging about me taking the curve to fast or not breaking fast enough. But mostly i have my foot already on the break ready to break. Im breaking a lot on the motor too. Im rather a forward looking driver then the moment. Like today i probably saw the lights far earlier then him so i saw not only that they were green no i saw that they just turned from red to green so i knew i dont have to break and he is going crazy about how he is frightened and if i cant drive more carefully etc.

But i know everything was under control. I know my care i saw the lights i was not speeding. I told him he can go by foot, bike or bus if he is to frightened cause i wont change sth i think is good for his fear and for sure not for somebody who lost his drivers license. Now i am the bad one cause im ego tripping in his opinion and dont care about his fear.

Am i really the butt hole or is he maybe just frightened cause he cant control the car and due to his accidents in the past. Im not sure but i really think he should look for him self how to get around if he is that frightened. I think he should be grateful im driving him around for already a hole year with no speeding no aggression nothing

I(26M) have been with my fiance(27F) for 3 years. I proposed to her last year, and we are in no rush to get married. We are very happy together. I work full-time for an agency, and she works as a cleaner and does babysitting on the side. I am happy that she wants to do something she enjoys.

We live in a very nice apartment that is great for the two of us. We have one cat and a few fish. I do pay most of the rent and she helps out with the grocery shopping and cleaning. I have been noticing that she has been drinking more and it's affected her work and how she treats everyone around her. She has missed a few job interviews due to the drinking and I am really worried about her. Her parents are both alcoholics. Her brother(29M) and sister(30F) are sober.

I was at work when I received the call that my fiance had been arrested for a DWI. This was about 10:00AM and I was about to go into a meeting. I quickly called her family and asked if they could pick her up. Her brother bailed her out and dropped her off at the apartment. When I got home from work, she starts yelling at me that I was the AH for not bailing her out. I explained to her that I was in a meeting and could not miss it. She stormed into our room and slammed the door. She has been giving me the cold shoulder and her friends think that I am the AH for not being the one to bail her out.


AITA for not picking up my fiance from jail?

I 30F just got into a fight with my boyfriend 31M. We have been together for 3 years now and have been living together for two. We live with two other roommates and one of them is my bf's friend 30M-he has known him since middle school.

I have started to notice things he will always tell/ demand his friend to do things (ex. do your dish, clean the floor) and his friend always responds like "don't talk to me like that i'm a grown man". Our other roommate 30M does the same things too (leave dishes in sink) but my bf doesn't talk to him like that, only his friend.

So I talked to my boyfriend about how he demands things from him instead of asking politely like saying "hey, can you do your dishes please?" instead of his usual aggressive "do your dishes" and it turned into a huge fight saying that i'm defending our roommate, his friend. Side note, my boyfriend and I agreed when we moved in together that one of us will cook and the other would do the dishes. I don't have a problem cooking because I like cooking and if he would cook it would be something frozen and I prefer a real meal. So most of the time he does the dishes.

Recently he has been irritated doing the dishes because our other roommates leave the dishes in the sink. AITAH for not just being on his side? because i feel like it creates unnecessary tension in our household. I don't want either of our roommates to move out because we live in a semi-expensive apartment but it's close to our jobs and if one of them moves out we won't be able to afford it.

We are on a family beach vacation with my (40f) family. The ocean has been extremely rough so much so that when we tried to let the kids (6,5,2) play in the surf at ankle depth they were getting tossed around and we had to go back to the house because it was too much (red flag posted at the beach access which in NC means “A single red flag on North Carolina beaches means a high hazard with dangerous surf conditions and strong, frequent rip currents. Officials strongly advise everyone to stay out of the water because swimming is extremely dangerous.”) We go back out the next day and the red flag is still there. Visibly it’s slightly calmer but not by much. My husband who is a self-admitted “strong swimmer” wanted to take our 6 year old son out in the water past the breakers maybe 10’ out. I said absolutely not and my mom who was also there panicked and said “husbands name absolutely no one is out swimming right now. Do not go out there.”

My husband stormed off the beach. Then came back out and made a big show of swimming in the water. Later that evening he said I disrespected him big time by not letting him teach his son to swim in the water. I said that going out in those conditions was a hard non-negotiable for me for our child’s safety and that no matter how good of a swimmer he was something could happen that even the best of swimmers wouldn’t be a match for. He told me that he had gone out and tested the conditions and he felt it was safe and would never put his son in danger. I said I felt differently about the situation and that I understood he felt it was safe but I did not. Husband is furious with me and feels like I disrespected him. TLDR: AITA for not letting my husband take our 6 year old out in red flag ocean conditions?

Background: I rent a single office in a shared space with 4 other offices, all rented to individuals. I signed the lease myself. It's an office share under my name. We have 1 single break room, and 1 waiting room with 4 chairs. This is a small space. The break room is tiny, with 1 table big enough for two people to sit at maximum.

My husband and I run a business. I am the main person who uses the office because I consult with people, and he answers calls and schedules appointment from home since he was laid off. When I am with people, for privacy reasons I keep my door closed. I am basically meeting with people from 9am-7pm.

My husband once drove me to work, then asked if he could use the break room to write some emails. I agreed. Now whenever he drives me to work he insists on sitting in the break room, for at least 1-2 hours, calling clients and just doing office work until I asked him to leave- I have no idea how long he would have worked himself.

I told him I felt this was not an appropriate use of the very small break room, and to be considerate of other people who need may need to use the room for other purposes. No one has complained to him directly, but he thinks this behavior is acceptable because it says "Staff room" and he's my staff. I asked him not to do this on a regular basis because it's inconsiderate.

AITA for asking him not to use the break room as his office on a daily basis? I feel it is selfish and inconsiderate to use the break room like this for several hours every day while I am already with clients.

My sister, Tina (30) and I (26) are really close. She has been the one person I could always tell everything to.

Every Christmas, our family and I visit a nice cottage. Last Christmas, Tina brought her boyfriend, Chris, whom she's been with for a year. I had only met him twice. He seemed very quiet and kind. During Christmas, I noticed he'd leave rubbish everywhere and eat everyone's gifted food, like boxes of chocolates. At first, I just considered maybe he'd never been in this sort of environment and thought the gifts were to be shared. Which, in this scenario, I'm sure if he asked, they would've been shared. I asked Tina why he did this, and she told me, "He was a foster kid; I don't think he's had many family get-togethers."

I understood immediately and never brought him up again. Until Tina and Chris asked to stay the night at our house whilst they were visiting (Tina and Chris live elsewhere), and I agreed. Chris and my boyfriend got on well and played Call of Duty for ages. That left Tina and me to chat. Tina told me all about how Chris had gotten a new job, but was fired a day after for lying on his job application, stating he had such work experience as 10 years with a company.

Tina told me she didn't care and that it was because he was struggling to get work. I told her it's immature. We fell out after that, and so I went for a walk. When I came back, my apartment was trashed, clothes and electronics stolen, plates smashed, and most of all, my boyfriend wasn't there.

Fortunately, my boyfriend came back after 20 minutes. He told me Tina had come in and told him I had run away. He'd been out looking for me. I realised that Chris and/or Tina had trashed the apartment whilst we were out.

When I saw Tina next, which was the day after the squabble, when we were at my parents', I told my parents about the situation and that Chris was a bad influence. She just kept arguing with me and telling me that he was a foster kid. My Dad was furious and told Tina to break up with Chris. I agreed. I told Chris, just to him, that I thought he was a bad boyfriend. He acknowledged it and said he needed to work on it/

I absolutely recognise the impacts of being a foster child, but is this an excuse for the downright disrespectful things they had done? Does it actually correlate with his childhood?

So, AITA?

40 wife and mom of 6 (20 - 2), I was preparing to cook dinner when I realized that we were short on tortillas. I asked my husband (37) if he could put the chicken in the oven while I ran to the store. We usually cook together or take turns cooking so he knows his way around the kitchen.

I returned home to find the kitchen baby-gate open and no husband. I noticed on the counter the remnants of him opening the package of chicken with a pair of children’s scissors. There’s a drawer of utensils (including a knife)underneath the area he left the raw chicken juice covered scissors and trash. The kitchen shears are in the knife block an arm’s length directly behind. He chose to use the pair the kids do homework and crafts with and are kept on the ledge in a pen cup.

When my husband came back into the kitchen, I asked “Why did you use these dirty scissors when there are a million other ways to open the chicken? Why is this mess still sitting here? And the gate was open, Boogie (2) could have been in the kitchen with the oven and stove on, what the heck were you thinking?” He starts screaming at me saying I treat him like trash and he’s not a child. Turns out he was playing a flight simulator video game in the bedroom when I asked him to help, so he was just trying to get back before he crashed.

Am I the a-hole for reacting the way I did or has my husband freaky friday-ed with our 16 yr old?

Im 28F he's 32M. We went to the store and got groceries including a steak. He was getting groceries out of the trunk, he comes inside and just says "the steak leaked" then he just stands there. So i grab paper towels and go out to the car and start wiping it down. As I'm doing that he's just standing by the garage talking to our neighbor accepting a beer. I then look up and say "why am I the only one cleaning this?" And he just comes to stand next to me and says "idk why you're getting mad at me".

He got blood on the sodas, my trunk from one side to the other and the seat and straps of the baby's stroller. When I got frustrated because the blood wasnt coming out I said "how did you get blood all over the trunk?" And he just keeps repeating "idk, it wasn't my fault" he has a history of saying nothing is ever his fault and there's always extenuating circumstances on why nothing is his fault. I said "so the blood just magically went from the steak to everywhere in the trunk" to which he responds "so you're saying it's my fault the steak leaked" I just tell him he's cleaning my trunk and he just repeats he doesn't know what happened. AITA?

My (43f) husband Jim (48m) has a super stressful job. Its not unusual for him to still be responding to emails at 11pm or wake up to respond at 4am before getting ready to go to work. I know he's an incredibly hard worker and very goal and career oriented. I respect and appreciate how hard he works to provide for our family and ensure our older kids, who are out of the house, to finish college debt free.

I'm a sahm to our 2 youngest, a 12yo boy and 3yo boy. Our 12yo is homeschooled because of medical needs. He's immunocompromised, has arfid, chronic migraines and cyclic vomiting. The 3yo is just a crazy toddler. My day to day consists of taking care of the boys and school for my 12yo, cleaning the house, cooking, laundry once a week, running any errands needed, managing all the bills and finances​, and managing Jim's emotions when he comes home.

At home, Jim's responsibilities are laundry once a week, mowing/weed eating the yard, and fixing things when they need it.

We both schedule our own car maintenance when needed.

Jim is asking me to take his time of laundry off his plate because he feels he has enough to deal with already between his job and the yard. He says he never gets time to unwind and me taking his share of laundry over would give him some time to himself for a few hours a week. (Even when he does the laundry I'm still the one to fold and put it away.)

I don't disagree that self care time is important, and I wish I had that, too. So far I've declined taking over Jim's laundry day simply because I feel like I also have plenty on my plate already.

(Jim does take the boys out to breakfast once a month to give me time to do a little deep cleaning on my own without tripping of our 3yo)

I (30F) had visited shopping with my Husband (32M). There I really liked 3 dress and I bought them for myself though it was expensive. My husband said he liked one of them specifically and said it's a gift from him ( the most expensive one). On our way back home he told his mother specifically that this dress (for which he had not paid yet) was a gift from him to me. Later I said why would he tell all the details to his mother especially if he hasn't paid me the amount yet.

He said he will send me the amount In a day / next day by evening. He did not. I reminded him to send me the money. He got very upset saying I don't trust him and gave me extra money saying keep the original amount with interest! But the total amount which he gave me was still 500 rupees lesser than the original price. I said he doesn't need to take the credit for the gift if he can't pay for it. Am I the jerk?

My brother in law comes over to our house and consistently doesn’t wash his hands after using the bathroom. I brought up to my husband about how uncomfortable this makes me and he told me to deal with it if I don’t like it. He acts pissed off anytime I bring it up to him as if I’m the one doing the act so it’s a touchy subject. I’ve confronted my brother in law once about a different thing in the past and he responded with anger towards me so the thought of bringing something else up to him makes me nervous.

Today my husband got mad at me because instead of walking in and giving him a kiss, I got home and immediately mentioned the fact that we had a sink full of his dishes that could’ve gone into the dishwasher that I went out of my way to unload last night so he didn’t have to. (He never puts his dishes in the dishwasher. He always leaves them in the sink even when the dishwasher is empty. He’ll purposely keep piling up the dishes in the sink instead of just unloading the dishwasher. It takes like 5 minutes.)

My husband seems to not do anything when he’s left home to care for our baby and I’m at my wits end. For insight, my husband and I both work full time but since we both work 4 10s we are also able to stay home during the week with baby. (Trying to avoid daycare) Anytime my husband stays home with him, I come home to a mess. Dirty clothes, diapers, and bottles everywhere. Kitchen full of dirty dishes and milk bags even though our trash can works and the dishwasher is free. I get so frustrated because my husband never comes homes to a house left the way he leaves it for me. And we’ve had talks about it, I just don’t know what else to do. I thought maybe it’s because the baby is giving him a hard time. But, he told me our baby is a great baby so Im confused as to what’s preventing him from simply cleaning up after himself. I’m so frustrated. Im four months postpartum, juggling a full time job plus mandatory overtime twice a month, breastfeeding/pumping, a baby, and cleaning up after myself and a grown man. I feel like I’m going crazy. So am I really the jerk?

My husband sometimes goes off to rest in our room. The problem is, he doesn't TELL me he's doing this, and so I'll be sitting around waiting for him to re-emerge from what I assume is the bathroom. Then he won't re-emerge, and I'll go off and look for him, and find him laying in our bed looking at his phone. I should mention that usually we spend our leisure time in the same room when we're both at home and usually it involves watching a show together, whereas if I'm by myself I usually read a book or watch something different that he wouldn't want to watch. And if he's doing something else like working on something in the study or anything hat'll take more than 5 minutes, he usually DOES tell me what he's doing, so this is a bit of an outlier.

I should also mention that he does a lot around the house and is a good partner - legitimately does at least as much of the life admin as I do. This is not a "my husband is lazy and sleeps in our room all the time" issue so don't even go there Reddit.

One day I got annoyed with him about this, and asked that he let me know if he's going to lay down so I can just do my own thing rather than be semi twiddling my thumbs expecting that he'll get back and we'll do something together. I should also mention that we have a baby, so I do also like to know if he's not coming back any time soon to help me wrangle her. Again, he does plenty of baby-wrangling, so that's not the issue.

He says that it's not hard to find him when he does this and thinks it's a weird household rude to announce his minor comings and goings. I think it's mildly rude to disappear without telling me where he's going, even it's in the house, because it changes what I'm doing with my time if he's going to be gone for a while doing his own thing versus just taking a dump or taking out the trash or something.

Me and my boyfriend have been together for three years. Him and his brother just started talking after a few years. Me and my boyfriend met on a family/family friend camping trip, our parents went to highschool together. Now I continue to invite him every year, and now it falls on our anniversary. This year he asked to invite his brother (25) ). I said sure and arranged for him to come out for the visit, paid for his food, ferry ticket, bus tickets the whole deal.

The first day of the camping trip was fine, I was a little annoyed that he kept trying to sound smarter than me to his brother, everything I said he would say something “smarter”. I pushed it off I wasn’t going to make a deal out of something small. The 2nd day was mine and my boyfriend’s 3 year anniversary. I recognize and understand that he hadn’t seen his brother in a while and let them spend the whole first day together, but this was our day. His brother kept following us around and eventually I had mentioned it was our anniversary and had requested some time alone. He snapped back that this was HIS brother and that since he hadn’t seen him in a while that this time with him was more important. I pushed that aside too. I wasn’t going to make a scene.

Flash forward to now. He’s in town for the county fair where me and my boyfriend live. Yesterday we went to the fair. My boyfriend and his brother were supposed to meet me and my siblings at a bus stop to ride to the fairground. After we got on the bus I got a text from his brother saying they missed the bus and were driving. My boyfriend and his brother arent from this area, I responded asking if he knew where they were going since I was going to ask them to go to a specific gate where the bus was dropping us off. He said that “Google Maps exist Yknow. You don’t need to try holding this mom act with me like you do with your siblings. Matter of fact. Stop.” I left him on opened and found them when we got to the fairground. They parked at the complete opposite gate as us, which I was going to get to if he hadn’t been snappy with me. When I asked for us to do our group fair button photo he said “You know that there’s a camera on your phone. Why take time out of our day for that”. (We’ve been doing the annual fair photo for YEARS). I didn’t respond and just waited for my brother.

I spent the rest of the fair quiet and waiting for my siblings to be done. When we got home I asked my boyfriend to talk to him since it was his brother. When confronted he said that this is all happening because I’m “babying him”. He explained that me asking if they knew where the fair was was babying him. Now my boyfriend and his brother haven’t talked for the past day, he’s kinda avoiding him until he returns home tomorrow because his brother still believes he’s done nothing wrong. AITA?

me (M23) and my boyfriend (M27) have been arguing over this weekend over stupid little things, but this one has kinda left me stuck?

we’ve recently went to rome start of this month and we’ve very much enjoyed it etc. i’ve spoken to him that it would be nice to go on another holiday as we’ve not been on one for 2 years before rome. he said he doesn’t think he could afford it as he pays bills and finds it stressful booking holidays and can’t relax with it, which i understand as i live with my mum and don’t pay rent which helps me save a lot and i enjoy the ‘adrenaline’ of the busy city holidays.

so i’ve explained that i might want to go on solo holidays as i’ve been on a few before ive met him and that it’ll be few days to different countries in the future, but we’ll still see each other over weekends, and he didn’t seem happy but told me that i should go, so i’ve told him if he’s sure and why he didn’t look happy with it.

he explained that he might feel jealousy and worried then said that why can’t i go on holidays with him, which i’ve said that i will love to go on holidays with him but due to him not affording it etc, i’d like to go myself when i can but will go on holidays with him when he has the money or whenever we can.

we’ve talked about it this morning again and he said that me going on solo holidays would be a push? and i said that i don’t want him being jealous that it’ll build his resentment towards me as i love him and want him to be happy for me. and he just couldn’t answer it?

i apologise if my post doesn’t make sense as my mind is so muddled, so i’m just confused as i’d want to go on my solo holidays but i don’t want him feeling resentment or that he’s not happy for me to go, even though im happy in our relationship and we love each other.

I (26 f) do not want to go to my (28 m) birthday party. I’m celebrating his birthday the day before with just him and I, but the next day he’s seeing his friends. For context, my boyfriend plays a game with his friends almost every Saturday night. I don’t go most days due to us being long distance and having issues with his friends, but I’m at bigger events.

Lately, I’ve been having issues with his friend group. Some examples are that one of them is in love with him and ruined my birthday surprise for him the year prior, I got close with one of his friends wives and she decided to end the friendship with me since I was talking about my relationship problems with her, even though she talks to me about her relationship problems with her husband, a couple of them speak derogatorily about peoples sexuality and race which makes me incredibly uncomfortable, I could go on but this post would take forever.

On top of issues with his friends, I start grad school in a couple of days and we are long distance. On top of all of this he was supposed to go out of the state for his birthday up until a couple of days ago. The plan to change just a regular weekly friend outing to a birthday was done recently.

I’m incredibly anxious about grad school, the drive can be a lot, and I don’t want to make myself more anxious by being around people who don’t generally like me or speak to me. But I feel awful about my decision, I feel guilty, I feel like a bad girlfriend. I genuinely don’t want to go. So, am I the jerk?

Sorry for any mistakes, english is not my first language.

So about the context

Today my boyfriend asked if he could come to my house so we can have dinner, maybe watch something and then sleep together. I said sure because why not. He was ate the gym and would come for my house after, so i waited and waited and waited...

After about two hours it was almost 10pm and i asked where he was, then he said he changed his mind and decided to go to his home. The problem is, he didn't send me any messages telling me that, and after that he said sorry, that he "forgot" and "i thought i sent the message"...

He usually forget things so it's not abnormal, but this made me really upset, because i was hungry, waiting for him and wanted to sleep and sending a message saying "i chaged my mind" wouldn't take more than 30 seconds.

He already send me a message saying that he's sorry, but i can't help but feel upset. Normally i don't really mind his forgetful, but this time i can't get over it.

So, AITA for getting upset that my boyfriend made me wait for two hours?