53 Toxic Friends Who Hurt People In Ways They Never Saw Coming

My" best friend" of 8 years ghosted me 2 weeks after my dad died unexpectedly. When he finally decided to pop back up a month later, he said it was because he was tired of dealing with me crying and being upset/depressed over my dad's d***h.

YEAH SORRY FOR STILL BEING IN MOURNING 2 WEEKS AFTER HE DIED!?

The thing that made it much worse for me was that his dad died in a similar way before I knew him and always used me as a shoulder to cry on but judged me when I needed a friend during a rough time.

F**k you, Philip.

Let him crash at ours when he was between places. While I was out he got drunk and tried to bully my wife into having s*x with him. He told her "If you don't I will tell him you did and he will believe me". She suggested he go get some beers first and then locked the doors, hid out at a neighbors and called me and the cops.


Cops got there before I did and couldn't actually arrest him for anything but basically said he should "F**k off to somewhere else or we will find a reason to take you to jail". Good thing too because if I got there first, I would probably gotten arrested for kicking his a*s.

My friend slept with my (obviously now ex) husband while we were still together. About four years later she got mad that I wouldn't be a bridesmaid in her third wedding.

Right after 9/11/2001, my best friend ghosted me and started hanging out with a new girl; there was no fight or argument. It was literally us having lunch together one day and then she walked past me the next with no acknowledgement whatsoever. Came to find out her parents told her she can’t hang out with terrorists (I’m middle eastern but born in the US and my parents are immigrants, she was white and her parents were in the military). She was literally my only friend and for 4 years after I didn’t bother building a friendship with anyone else while in school because of how bad the situation made me feel.

F****d my wife while I was working extra duty in the military. When I was working and he was off, he'd go to my house.

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He got his dues, though. I hold no more resentment. If that didn't go down, I wouldn't be where I am today. And let me tell you, I love the woman sleeping in my bedroom right now more than I thought was even possible.

Edit: He was caught cheating by another unfortunate husband. Our commander threw everything he could at him. His military career was put on hold, and he eventually was booted out without benefits. He married a girl we knew as a "unit morale booster" and she cheated on him. He got involved in World Ventures, the pyramid scheme, and I don't really give a f**k after that.

He is lucky. I sought out help one day after I was considering using my duty weapon to take him out. My friend had a concealed carry on him when he found his wife cheating, but he tossed the g*n in another room before he confronted them.

Dude could be d**d. Either way, I'm in a good place right now. My ex wife is struggling, because she continues to make poor decisions, but that is on her.

Cheers!

He stole $50 worth of stuff that I had at my house that belonged to a different friend of ours. If the 3rd friend wasn't the nicest guy I'd ever known, he probably would have accused me of being a thief, and could have lead to me being ostracized by our whole group of friends. I didn't have a job at the time, so it took a little bit to pay him back the $50, but I was finally able to. F**k you Jake you thief.

I asked if he could stop in daily to feed my fish and test my water. Ran a decent saltwater tank. Nice 150 gal bowfront and gorgeous. I was out of town for 2 weeks. Came home to a nuked tank. He didn't stop by even one time. I gave him $200 to do this and he said "yea no problem it's on my way home from work anyways"

Edit: because a lot of folks are interested in the aftermath of that. When I got home and saw my tank nuked I went to his house and confronted him. He basically shrugged the entire thing off. Claimed he just forgot and I can just start new like it wasn't a big deal at all. I was in such a rage that I thought it best to just leave or I would hurt him bad. So I went home and had a good cry and proceeded cleaning up. Sold off the equipment and gave up for about 3 years. I've never spoken to the guy again and have zero intentions of ever doing so.


Edit: for those asking to see what I have I only have these two pics right now Coral!

A guy and I come out as gay and dating to our friend group. A couple of the girls are very religious and decide to try and get him to break up with me to save his soul cause I'm a "ball of darkness and despair" that's corrupting him. Like not even my soul, ONLY his soul. My soul's feelings were hurt.

Some friends had done some horrible stuff to me. We're capable of that. But the worst I would have to say is with this one girl.

I really did enjoy being friends with her and I cared about her a lot. As soon as we became friends we clicked instantly and we just had the most amazing conversations and had a similar understanding that you don't find in many other people.

Anyway, her boyfriends brother r***d me. And I didn't really tell anyone about it. But my boyfriend at the time found out reached out to people trying to find out information. So this girls boyfriend (the brother of my r**ist) made her disown me as a friend. She just dropped me once the truth came out. Like we didn't spend the last year together attached at the hip. Blocked me on all accounts. Pretended like we were never friends.

Then her and her boyfriend had a falling out and all of a sudden she resurfaced saying she was done with him and she's sorry. But I guess that didn't last longer than a week because once they got back together she dropped and blocked me again. It hurt me a lot. Still hurts when I think about it. It's really f****d up to do things like that to people.

She wasn't my worst friend tbh, but this was the cr**piest act someone ever did.

I had just started dating a guy in our friend group. We were in all different classes but he was in the same class with her a lot. As soon as we started dating, she became very clingy to him. She was always hanging onto him, flirting, just overall acting like she was interested in him. After 2 months of us being together, he broke up with me. I was heartbroken and as soon as he and I weren't together, she stopped. It was suspicious for sure, but I just wanted to think she was still my close friend.

Then, I confided in her that I really liked another guy. She just so happened to be in a summer play with this guy that I wasn't a part of because I was working all summer. She starts going on and on each time I see her about how much people think she and him are a couple and how she is always flirting with him. It made me realize that the only reason she was doing all this was because she wanted the attention on her, even if it meant stepping on her close friend's feelings. I stopped confiding in her after that.

A few years later I met and married my husband and she messaged him on Facebook to congratulate us and "interrogate him since I was her dear friend". She ended up getting flirty quickly and my husband stopped responding. I also have an ex friend who did similar things (on top of being emotionally a*****e), but it wasn't as obvious other than the "accidental" n*des she sent to my husband.

Convinced the rest of my friends that I’d done something unforgivable. And then convinced them that they shouldn’t be friends with me anymore. While we were studying abroad, with no other friends/support system around. It was awful.

My "friend" was a mutual friend of me and my X-gf. He encouraged both us of that it wasn't a healthy relationship to be in, which it wasn't. He only did so though because he wants to sleep with her. After we broke up and she got drunk and depressed, they slept together.

He had s*x with my passed out drunk body. Not black out drunk (I remember him taking me home and me thinking "this is a good guy"). I didn't know back then that it was r**e. He didn't even wear protection.

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Fortunately there was no STI or pregnancy, but when I knew it was r**e, the statute of limitations was over.

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Most of the people we both were friends with back then still invite him to parties, I don't attend. I told my closest "friends" from that group what had happened, and they justified it with the "boys will be boys" line. I am no longer friends with them.

Stole my NES games - Wheel of Fortune and some baseball game. That was 30 years ago and I'm still hurt about it. His mom never made him give them back, even when we begged.

When I was in grade 8, I went to the Dominican Republic with my friend and her family. The entire time we were there she didn't want to do anything on the resort. Like, nothing at all. She wanted to sit around her parents and watch them play Euchre. Despite the fact that her parents and their friends were pushing us to go off and do some fun kid activities and other things... such as SWIM... I was miserable. I couldn't go anywhere without her and missed out on everything because she was just b****y and mean. It was clear she didn't want to be on the trip at all (probably because they vacationed so frequently) and they only invited me to entertain her. She was never like this at school. I was still happy to be there... my family was poor and this was my first ever vacation. I was thankful my mom and dad were able to get enough money together so I could go. So I didn't complain. When we returned and went to school the following Monday, she told all of our group of friends that I made fun of her Mom on our trip for having Breast Cancer. WHAT?! ... I didn't know she had breast cancer and no i definitely didn't make fun of her mom... I'm not a lunatic. Her Mom, who was perfectly healthy (found out when I told my Mom and my Mom called her Mom) did not have breast cancer. Anyways, everyone hated me after that. I had no friends until I went off to high school.

EDIT: I'd like to quickly add - it was much worse having people think I'd make fun of someone for having cancer than having a s****y vacation. I just wanted to tell the whole story. The more and more I think about it the more upset I am remembering how utterly disappointed for me my Mom was when everything unraveled, she was devastated. God that hurt. I didn't ever want her to know what a terrible time I had. She so badly wanted me to have a great experience but when everything unraveled at school, it all came out.

I'm married and one of my best friends was a woman, who was basically a younger sister to me. My wife really never had any issue with it since there were no trust issues. Around our 2nd year of marriage, this "friend" let's call her J, decided to spread a rumor to my coworkers that we had been having a one time affair. One of my coworkers told me and showed me proof that J was saying all this stuff. When I finally confronted her, she initially just kept lying about it, until I showed her the screenshots of her texts. Then everything blew up, she got angry at me for not caring about her, not loving her, and that I left her by getting married. Eventually I found out that the 1 time rumor wasn't a 1 time rumor and instead, she had been saying this stuff to her coworkers and family since I got married, that I was leaving my wife for her.

I had 3 best friends all throughout school. Did everything together. All went to different uni’s but kept in touch everyday. They graduated and got jobs back at home, I stayed on to do a masters. Still super close, we talked about finally going on our first group holiday together. All suggesting places, one of them suggested a nice resort but as a student i said it was a bit out of my budget and suggested a similar one a bit cheaper. Never heard from any of them again, i messaged and called. Nothing. 15 years of friendship over a holiday. They went on the trip. I was utterly heartbroken.

My "friend" thought that it would be funny if he burnt off the hair from my leg with a lighter and a deodorant. He ended up giving me a second degree burn on most of my calf that is still very visible after 2 years.

Summer going in to freshman year of high school I “met” this girl in an AIM chat room that I was in with mutual friends. Somehow we started talking privately, I showed her my MySpace (this was 2006 when AIM and MySpace were used) she didnt have a MySpace but sent me pictures of her. She and I talked for a while over that summer. I can’t recall the span of time, but we were into each other. I was showing my buddy pictures of her, he asked for her screen name and I obliged, not thinking much of it. She was sending me their conversation logs, he was trying to hit on her, and was basically talking about what a loser I was, how a lot of my friends were losers, not something a friend should say about another friend...especially to the girl he fancied. Well, turns out the girl I was talking to wasn’t honest about herself. The girl in the pictures wasn’t her. This was before catfishing was a mainstream thing. I sort of assumed that because she knew my mutual friends that she was who she said she was. So I told my buddy and he said “Nooo! I wanted to hook up with her so bad.” I didn’t talk to him much after that.

In college, had been dating the same woman since second quarter of my freshman year. Was certain she was it. Start of senior year, best friend at the time and I are talking and I tell him I think she's The One. Six months later, he confesses he started f*****g her a week later and wanted to tell me so I wouldn't waste money on a ring, etc. Went with the whole bros before h**s routine.

Improved my life by cutting them both out of it. Met actual The One later in life. Have an awesome family. Great kids. She's amazing. When I look back, I'm glad now that I knew. But what a f****d up thing to do to a friend then try to rationalize as looking out for said friend.