75 Shocking Discoveries People Made About Their Partners After Marriage

After dating for seven years and well-establishing that I like to sleep in when I don't have plans, we got married. Suddenly, idk why, apparently "we" had a bedtime AND in the morning, it was suddenly "time for us to get up." Had to have a stern conversation with my morning-person husband about that real quick. If there's stuff we have to do, yeah sure, but if it's a lazy Sunday, leave me alone and go play video games alone.

My sister found out 3 yrs into her relationship that her husband used to be an NFL wide receiver for the Green Bay Packers. She thought he just played beer league football casually with his friends.

They were sitting around watching a football game on tv and he knew really specific details about certain players. She was asked him how he knew all this and he said he was pretty good friends with him. The conversation kept going and he finally admitted to playing in the NFL with him.

His family would never talk about it either. She would be over at his house and his sister told her that his college games were "pretty fun" to go to. She never brought up that he was the star wide receiver playing in front of 70,000 people.

That he is a very smart man and can teach me a lot about life and about myself.

In many ways, I made sure that getting married was a good next step in our relationship. He's my favorite person in the world, I love being in our love every day (even when he pisses me off).

That her bottom functions as a low level fog horn some mornings.

That she leaves one second on the microwave everytime because she doesn't want it to beep......

Her parents ruined her credit buying Christmas gifts with her credit. They maxed everything out and never paid for anything.

Then when she confronted them, they told her she accepted the Christmas presents. As if committing identity theft was somehow her fault.

So there I was with a newborn on the way married into a family that literally victimized their daughter and gave her next to zero financial education.

She bought a car at 30% interest, she had credit so bad we couldn’t rent. She took a payday loan to buy a dog, that she ended up pawning off on her parents. She had pet ferrets she didn’t take care of either.

Smfh… red flags everywhere. But I was already invested in a sinking ship.

She ended up getting a pretty good inheritance several years later. Which instead of buying a house, she used to divorce me, travel, party, and not work for several years.

So I’m a little bitter, especially because she feels entitled to child support from me, after financially supporting her, our kids, and paying down her student debt for years.

I had no idea who I was marrying, or sleeping with. I had every opportunity to put on the brakes, and chose to pour the beers.

Lesson: take your time getting to know someone, and their family well before moving forward with them, it can very severely impact your life and others too.

Before we got married I loved how sarcastic she was. After we got married I realized she wasn't sarcastic at all, just mean. We're still happily married, though.

I'd known that he'd struggled with anxiety and depression throughout his life, but about 5 months after the wedding it really hit hard. We'd just bought a car because he'd been doing well at his first full time job. The stress off needing to work or else crashed down so hard that had to stop completely. The panic attacks were so severe and frequent that he nearly couldn't leave the house. He couldn't drive to work because he'd shake so violently and his arms and legs would go numb. Every morning around 4am he'd wake up to try to go to work and I'd stop him. We'd sit in the dark until he calmed down enough to play a video game for a while. These attacks would happen around 5 times a day. They've dissipated since he formally left the job and we decided that my income was technically enough. I had no idea that anxiety attacks could be that severe, and I wish I could take them away for him, at least so that he could get more out of life.

Since we decided he won't work outside of home, we've started a family and he'll soon be a stay at home dad for our son. Instead of filling my husband with anxiety or terror, I've never seen him so excited and confident in himself.

She's still great, but I didn't realize how poorly she had been parented. Not like her parents were hurting her or mean, they're great in-laws and people. They just didn't do the job of preparing their children to be adults.

Her mom was the type that compulsively took care of everything, and her dad wasn't super involved (probably to avoid fighting with the mom). They did a good job with character and temperament though, which I appreciate. Adulthood just hit my wife like a freight train, and what it is was completely alien to her. An extra 4 years of college, made it worse by her being even older when she first experienced it. It's been hard for her, but she's further along than both her older siblings at least. Her brother is like 38 and still doing laundry at home, and her sister got a tech job that prints money and is so coddled by her husband she's basically never had to become an adult.

It seems to be a fairly common problem with my generation. Fortunately, I was raised poor enough my mom didn't have a choice, so my sister and I were both pretty independent at a young age and really haven't seen anything we weren't prepared for by experience. Most importantly, we can handle pressure and don't fall apart at the slightest setback.

She enjoys pineapple on pizza...

He had never had a peanut butter and jelly sandwich in his life, and I found this out when we were married for more than five years. I made him his first pb&j when he was 30, and he was blown away by how good it was.

So, to start. I like spiders. I don't particularly love them, but I don't mind them and I make it a point to try to let them live. I even let them hang out in the corners of rooms and later clean up their leftover houses and stuff. Afterall, they're just going to eat up all the other bugs that I don't want around like mosquitos and such.

Forward to last week- 10 years with my husband, 7 of which we've been married. I pull out a spider decoration for Halloween (it's a stuffed spider with wire legs that's about 2 feet wide) and he proceeds to calmly tell me to please take it away and he doesn't want to see it because he has- and apparently always has had- an extreme spider phobia.

I thought it was a joke and he was just doing a bad job at being funny so I threw the spider at him.

I won't do that again.

He was gay and I was his unknowing beard.

That he never told his parents I was giving him money to give to them even before I moved in. His parents owned the house he lived in and there were always people staying there for free. I felt bad so when I had extra money I would give him some to give to his parents to help with utilities while also paying rent for my own apartment. He told me his parents told him to keep the money. They didn't know anything about it.

Also, one night he brought some people home from work while we were house sitting for his parents. Some money went missing from the safe and I assumed they stole it. He origionally told his parents that they stole it. After we broke up he told them I was really the one that stole. Turns out he stole the money.

Food garbage goes in the freezer until garbage day. So my freezer is like 1/3 full of freezer bags of strawberry tops, apple cores, banana peels, green pepper centers, etc…….

HER “It doesn’t smell this way”
ME “then put it in the garbage can outside!! You know, where it’s going to go anyway”!!!!!

My wife and I have only been married just under 2 years but we've been together almost 12. We lived together 3 months in so I knew most of her weird habits and routines. Had kids young and struggled but we got there. Better late then never.

One thing that caught me off guard and grosses me out though is her love for french toast and ketchup!! It's the most revolting thing I've ever seen a person eat. For almost a decade she hid this weird obsession all because she knew I don't like ketchup!!

She had two other kids, that she'd abandoned. After my youngest (with her) was just over one year old, we didn't see her for almost ten years.

I have custody, FYI.

That 3/4 of the time he spends in the bathroom is spent on "iPad time". For years I thought he was struggling with digestive issues..... nope, just the Simpsons game.

My grandpa told my grandma he was italian. They got married while she was pregnant and she had not met his family yet. When they did go to meet his parents they were talking in Ojibwe (a native american language) and she looked at him and said "Thats not italian. What are they speaking?" and thats how my grandma found out she was married to an Indian not an Italian.

About a week after we got married I learned he’d been cheating on me for our entire relationship up until when I found out. So that was fun.