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Rowan [He/They]
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Heyo I'm a trans demiboy gremlin who collects pronouns and names like there's no tomorrow | Suspected ASD and anxiety but no actual diagnosis for either :3 | You can find me on Discord (#3362) and Tumblr under Pozalita66 :D | As long as you're polite, we'll get on just fine!
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Rowan [He/They] · commented on a post
about 2 months ago

I was a teenager terrified of punishment I would've lost it like that too. It's part of being a teenager with messed up hormones I really don't think she's a spoiled brat
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Rowan [He/They] · upvoted an item
about 2 months ago

PLENTY of people don’t know what “BPD” is, as is demonstrated almost weekly, as some think it’s “bipolar disorder,” and some think “borderline personality.” We have no idea what her therapist’s told her, but whatever it is, snarling about a 21-yer-old not knowing something seems unreasonable (and rude).
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Rowan [He/They] · upvoted 12 items
over 1 year ago

Glad to see some parents recognizing that responding with anger doesnt help, and that ANYONE having a meltdown is incapable of processing information rationally.

When we were younger (in our twenties) my brother would always drink my orange juice. But he's allergic to mangoes, so I started buying mango and orange. Don't panic, the fruit juices we get are are clearly labelled, and bro can read! He asked why I started buying that type and I told him straight, to stop him from drinking it. It worked.
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Rowan [He/They] · commented on 3 posts
over 1 year ago

Things I'd like to know: How long have they been friends (are these 2 missed years the only years they've known each other or is there history omitted)? Did OP mention the meal was a birthday meal? I am terrible with dates the only reason I know when birthdays are (even family birthdays!) is because I have them in my calendar but if I forget to make a note there's not a hope in hell I'll remember. Was it an intentional slight or is OP's friend bad with dates and forgetful? Idk I feel this story is incomplete

People are very quick to suggest low contact and be mad she hasn't already but imo cutting off contact with family is very hard. Even when they suck they're still family, and that mindset is hard to break out of. It's hard in the same kinda way that grieving an abusive family member is complicated. OP seems to have realised she can't fix them, she'll work that attachment loose with time
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Rowan [He/They] · upvoted 20 items
about 2 years ago

OP lives five hours away, hasn’t seen the house for a year, AND is sick of seeing the house? Huh?
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Rowan [He/They] · commented on 3 posts
about 2 years ago

As the youngest sibling with two biological brothers, I ask to do stuff with just me and my parents. I love my brothers and they're 100% my family I just like a little two on one time and I'd say that's pretty normal. The lack of biological relation doesn't make this different, OP deserves that exclusive attention too. More so, considering their parents don't seem to care

I'd imagine the reason she started refusing therapy is related to the therapist talking to her mother about her probably without her consent? Even if it's not enough to be illegal it's still a breach of trust. Idk I just really didn't like that bit. I hope B can rebuild that trust in therapy and find herself a new therapist because it sounds like she needs it
